my dream, stoic supporter has left ...
The indisputable Leader, Caregiver & Living Angel is the Mother, in spirit & in every imaginable way she protects her young at all costs including sacrificing her life
She never let 'poorness' & poverty hinder her determination to give the best to her children
For nine months, she gives from within [her] & every childbirth is not without risks
I used to have a younger brother who had cerebral palsy and he lived past 10yo and my mother had walked half the globe looking for a cure for him; western medicine, TCMs, Gods & whatnots, deities and bomohs... anyone who can offer a cure or to cure him ~ hopes vs miracles. The best arrived when he left & relieved the family from further sufferings, especially my mother - the caregiver
Suffers? Yes, we all suffered together but my mother never, never shed her responsibilities nor show weaknesses but keep everyone well, together & alive, healthy and taken cared of ~ money was short but we lived by and weather the challenges. We were never left hungry and the family remains happy
In our early days, she worked as a washerwoman, a general worker at ZhiChar stalls, as a hawker & participated in tontines; saving for a rainy day & saved every cent - the ever-thrifty woman who kept the family afloat & running
We sold breads door-to-door in the four blocks of HDB flats daily & my mum allowed credit as some could not pay until their payday. Guess what, she empathized with the poor, but several moved away without paying. Bad debts are common, say 10% ~ her only word was 'never mind, they are going through difficult times too'
She was the sole breadwinner, the stalwart & bedrock of the family
It's all memories now










