A Better Life : You Can Change Your Life

reflection is the truth...

Before you pass judgements, look into the mirror

When you were betrayed and 'sold', was it because you were too innocent, you were too trusting or you have relied heavily on the other party to achieve your goal

You can blame the whole world except yourself but the ultimate bearer of burden and consequences is you; yourself

It is disadvantageous to have too many friends as most are with you for a purpose aka "use". If you are not useful, why do they bother to call and count on you? The value of friendship starts with "usefulness", just as your bosses/employers pay you for your use/contributions

A big network is important and useful for information flow and tapping, not for gossips, conspiracy and backstabbing 

A network is a collection of people with fairly like-minded interests, good, bad & scheming (characters) aside 

A few friends, a few bosom friend, a few trustworthy friends ~ nobody can say "I have many of these..." reliable yet available

When you decided to close yourself to everyone or most, you will be surprised "how empty and quiet" your life is... no gossips, requests for help, being 'used', hearing loads of noises & peace returns

But, an idle mind is a devil's workshop

Slowly, but surely, you will (need to) fill in the void

If you are young again, do you or will you choose the same route? If yes, then you need not clear the clutters and should continue as usual before the Devil occupies 

Whatever fits, do ~ YOLO

If Providence is pre-destined, then why do you need to struggle? No, those who struggle are swimming [fighting] against the flow instead of doing your best & leaving the rest ... not doing anything is the other negative extreme

Nature rewards the brave and patience ~ Brave to try and not give up and patience to wait for results

Like all things, some days are harder and nothing seems to go right; I'd drop everything and close for the day

Taking long walks is also a form of meditation ~ try walking aimlessly but safely. Let your feet and mind leads you. Let your mind wonders

As much as you walk forward, you will need to return to your start-point

Henceforth, you will discover that where you were (before the start) weren't exactly that bad ... everything goes in circle and we return to (re-)start again

We  came alone and shalt return alone too

Every other persons' opinions and voices do not affect us ...  没有如果只有结果与后果

Swim the deepest ocean, climb the highest mountain, jump the vertical cliff; do enough to have stories to tell when you are old and no longer able to attempt the 'impossible'

GOD has a plan for you & HE allows you maximum spaces to demonstrate & experiment but be prepared for the consequences, for the better or worse 种因得果

Life is like water

No fix shape nor size

Water cuts through rocks and steel

Drips & drops of water fill the ocean

Water evolve & travel in cycles ~ liquid, vapor, solid

Human is unstoppable except by oneself

I am & I will ... be water

 

Never Hate

Be your own lighthouse...

Never hate ... is a powerful solution to all of life's challenges

Hate is a negative emotion and it drains you both, mentally and physically

When your friend plays you out, you hate him instead of learning from your lessons to stay away from him & other fairly similar characters 

When someone provokes you or talk down to you, you can be angry & disturbed but let the moment lapse as soon as it surfaces. Why? You've suffered that moment, let it go instead of suffering in infinity

Choose your battles; not all battles must be fought

When you need to fight the harassment of a cackle of hyenas, you will never walk away alive neither will you be able to leave to seek freedom & achievements   

Not all failures need to be bitter as most happen for a reason and, at times, unexpectedly

Betrayals, short-changed, disruptions, abrupt changes... are all lessons and norms

The earlier that you get over, the faster you recover and move ahead  

The choice is clear: either you are stuck or you move on & progress

Misery can be incisive but should always be temporary ~ it's like crying in the rain and let nobody notices your tears

Retreat into your cocoon to rest & recuperate when you are feeling hurt, energy depleted,; it is best not to share but to swallow the load 

Nobody really wants to know your problem while the majority smirks conceitedly 落井下石

Rest if you must and give yourself a break ~ "the good riddance feelings"

Before ASEAN was formed, SEAsia was a divisive region of nations; compulsive, aggressive, suspicious and, at times, jealous of their more successful neighbors    

ASEAN was born in 1967 with Indonesia, Malaysia, Philippines, Singapore and Thailand as founders. It grew and is still growing, minus the hurts, suspicions, aggression and jealousy. These negatives did not disappear but they are managed and ventilated to ease relationships. Any disagreements are mediated & resolved  or, the quarreling parties can opt out temporarily ~ that is, rest but not quit

Do not let hate burn your Soul

Be at peace with yourself and others 

When you forgive, you give yourself a chance to be released from emotional bondage and learn from your defeats 放下就轻松 笑看江湖

I am the lighthouse upon myself, then others, not unlike the moon that shines in the night though it doesn't produce light but reflects the sun's rays. I am the catalyst, the motivator and the glow

I cannot change anyone nor the world but when I change, the world changes with me

I am rebooting myself to create a "new" me; say little, listen more, be indifferent to everything and everyone that don't concern nor benefit me... to be blind and deaf to the surrounding

Like a squirrel; goes out hunting for food, bring home, store and until the food runs out, nothing bothers

I am not turning selfish but I'm still licking my wounds from my own generosity and empathy. Nobody will ever understand the hurts 苦中作乐 that burns within 

After 10 months of extreme patience, I was almost defeated by myself ~ accommodating everyone ~  but, slowly but surely ... the tomorrow shalt come

All shalt pass and I shalt return better and stronger