When Life Is In Disarray

expect nothing, no disappointment...

Whatever seem to be normal, suddenly changed or stopped

What can be more disruptive than almost every changes strike in an instance

The friends that were reliable turned against you and/or reneged as if "it's a norm"; promises are cheap & honor is dead

The usual daily norms change too

I can accept changes but was taken by surprised that changes were sudden, immediate and impactful

I guess it is not about the changes but the impact that causes loose footings

Once adjusted, you regain control of the situation, not unlike regaining control of a nose-diving plane

There is no time for regrets

Nobody's gonna have sympathy for a/any loser... the deal is to 'kill', not to leave you with a chance to return

Desert frogs burrow underground during the dry months, in order to escape the searing sun. They can stay underground for many months while they wait for the next rains to fall

Survival  skills are necessary in the jungle & life and living is a jungle

Animals kill for food and survival but humans kill for 'fun', the fun of seeing one fell

How will/do you react when others purposely make your life miserable, with impactful disruptions? Stay calm, take the punches, burrow into safe heaven, assess the damage... never show any weaknesses or damages

When the chips are down, lie low

Nobody owes you a living; death is your closure, not theirs. The best revenge is "Steve Job-bing"

留得青山在 不怕没材烧 Steve Jobs + Steve Wozniak (year 1976) > Michael Scott > Mike Markkula > John Sculley > Michael Spindler > Gil Amelio > Steve Jobs (year 2000) 真能力 真金不怕火炼

Revenge? NO... The sweetest victory is to let the plotters fail in their own game

Life is never linear 

There will always be a section of acquaintances, not friends, who would like to see you down; watch who you share your problems with

The home breaker, the relationship disruptor, the business cheats; most betrayals are only possible because you trusted them as friends

When you are lowest in your life, the only way is up

Go, get a life after defeats...& return stealthily - strike when ready

Life can never be in disarray for too long; spend a little idle time to create a new winning formula

The idle mind is a devil's workshop - work on your devil's ideas and return as an avenging angel

Nobody can see you 'dead' if you refuse to die

Living Simply & Happily

whatever fits...

Emotional baggage are lengthy, sticky and need to wax off over time, be it pain, regrets, triumphs, sweet nothings

I remembered the movie where the young lady ran away from home & lived with an elderly man she met while sleeping rough as his wife had left him earlier and ended having two sleep-in boyfriends. The young lady found a equal age guy to settle down as he couldn't 'satisfy' her after some years while the elderly happily settled with a gay partner; his hidden emotional wants

Everyone found happiness towards the end

You don't really know what you desire until your mind is settled

Happiness is relative

You can't give anyone happiness if he decides that his life is one of unfairness & misery - he sees the thorns more than he was ever able to enjoy the sweet smell the roses

Nature commands that we will go through 生老病死 & must 'enjoy' 酸甜苦辣; if everyday is sunshine, chances are you are in a desert

The difference is your emotions; the degree of fluidity & stability determines your level of happiness or misery

Some people get tired off easily or they are like "fish on a hook" and can see only one perspective

Night turns into day, misfortune turn lucky, sadness turn harmony... the cyclicals

Nothing is finite & time is one

Have faith with GOD & treat yourself well; nobody cares if you are in harmony with the universe

Life is like soccer; the goal keeper can keep out a thousand balls but if he allowed a score, he is judged

All the good you've done is expected of you but any wrongs, if discovered, carry penalties

That's the real equality; the world will never be equal - the earlier you accept it, the happier you will be

What is GOD? GOD is about love; nobody has seen GOD but many have felt the need to love, forgive & embrace harmony and peaceful coexistence

We are all made unique & have specific roles to play in our lives 做好本分

Let there be happiness & harmony all around

If you think Heaven is wonderful, why are you still here? Why not live heavenly on Earth instead? It's now or never...there may not be a/any heaven

Care & share, have compassion & help the less able & less fortunate

The less expectations you have, the less disappointments you'll get

Go with the flow & life's gonna be a breeze

The aborigines, red indians and dayaks were happy, and will still live happily, in their forested & green areas, away & undisturbed by urbanisation 

Whoever say materialism is supreme? You live once...so live well

Don't worry, be happy

Whatever fits ... go with it

Be Easy On Yourself

accept reality & let go ...

How long can you hold on to a hope-less situation hoping that it will turn around? For as long as you can take the pain of waiting aimlessly

There is a price for everything: hold, let go, walk away

Giving time and opportunities for it to harness and manifest positively require grit & faith

What are the losses of giving up? You loss some & the other party loss some but the jury is still out in the open; there is no real winner nor loser

长痛不如短痛好  笑看天下事

Pains ease over time as memories fade

Everyone has their own priority & priority changes as needs change; nobody is any smarter

Man proposes but GOD disposes

Whatever tomorrow brings, no one knows

Well known singing idol, Feng FeiFei凤飞飞, planned a major "thank you" concert for her fans but fate didn't allow it. In the midst of her preparations, she was diagnosed with cancer & didn't make it.

Steve Jobs, with all his fame and wealth, couldn't win against a ravaging cancer  

Vanity and envy is the cancer of the character - values are destroyed by personal indiscretions 

Whatever you give to help another must never be weighed against any plausible returns - many will move on whereas you are stuck in the unrequited illusionary returns

Material sacrifices can be made back but emotional investments need to burn itself up - there is no recourse for emotions

With the last two years of turbulence, it pays to give up & go with the flows

Bite the bullet & moves on

Rich or poor, family comes first; the rest can wait

Live healthily and happily - tomorrow is not promised 

If you had been betrayed, your emotions were ripped off & you are left to hang on a line, walk away...

All pains will ease over time & Karma serves the same menu 

Nobody can rob you of your happiness

Some day, when you look back...letting go was indeed the best decision that you've made

没有如果 只有结果和因果

No expectation, no disappointments - Be easy on yourself

Punch Hard To Win - Start Now

shortest may not be the worst...

February is the shortest month in the year but everyday still holds 24hours

Whatever changes but time doesn't change; everything changes over/with time

Man and material beings are finite and shalt decay over time

Emotions change when priority & attraction changes

We can't beat the clock for most times as the Laws of Nature rule; the newly born butterfly needs to wait out for it's wings to dry before it's first flight

Flowers need to shed before becoming fruits & the tides are pulled by the moon's gravitational forces

People come & go and life is a revolving door with most staying only long enough to cast an impact

Whether they are good, bad or ugly, all departures hurt - you'd miss the good ones, the bad leaves 'destruction' while the ugly leave behind bad tastes

Time shalt heals

Leave the formative years (up to 15yo) to explore and experiment

By 30yo, you'd have fairly clear ideas of your future, your goals and your intents

40yo is the last spurt of energy for monumental changes

By 50yo, it's time to go with the flows - follow your heart

It's a little hard to rearrange your life and goals by 60s; not impossible though. But, with brittle bones and stoic grit greasing the changes, you may achieve after much efforts

70yo is a time to reflect, relax and tell some stories

Don't harbor too much regrets as you have spent your time paving your paths. What you think, you become

An action will cause a reaction, not unlike "what you eat, you become" - the greatness of the Universe is 'light attracts light'

February is the freshest of Spring

Man is driven by emotions - the desire to achieve

Use your energy, capabilities and grit wisely; there is little to no room for regrets

In our life's journey, you win some... you loss some; just win more to eliminate the pains of losses

知足常乐 Be contented but ready to fight for your dreams; winning or losing is part of the game

Within you means, most things are achievable

If you can't take the heat, leave the kitchen

We are all built differently & have distinct roles to play and the earlier that you realize and accept "the world will never be equal", the happier you'll be 

Fight for what's yours and leave the scene without being excessive but contentment

Tomorrow will never come; make the best use of today

Start now: to let go, to fight on, to give your best shot, to challenge fate... whatever! Just be the BEST

Life is like a boxing match. If you don't punch hard to knock out your opponent, he will. 

DO NOT fight for fun

Everybody loves a winner

Giving Up Is A Virtue

giving up is a virtue...

I hardly give up, almost never

But, I have learnt to give up on headless chases, unrequited efforts to bridge relationships(EQ), fake   leads, empty promises and hollow opportunities

I am not a fool & I am willing to loss some resources & spend efforts to build possibilities

I can sell ice creams to the eskimos

The many who think that I could be taken for a ride weren't wrong as I am ready to bet on unknown leads & false starts

But, I am seldom wrong & once I grip the lead, I fight on; the price is considered 'small beers'

Who can cheat or scheme against you? Friends. Only friends...

Nothing hurts more than being betrayed by your friends but...BUT... isn't that called "entrapment"? You fell into the very trap of your own emotions - Trust

When you are devoid of emotions, nothing can entrap you; not even your closest relations 六亲不认

Many have taken my kindness as weakness; some days soon they will pay

Not because I will seek revenge, for which I never endeavor, but to watch them fall into the very traps they set for others - Karma is a bitch

I have learnt to say "NO" - better late than never

Strangely, of late, I have been meeting defeats, one after another; from failed promises to endless chasers to over providing for others whom I either felt needed my guidance & assistance or had seek my help

They simply disappear & vanish into thin air - the hurts remain but all shalt heal 黎明之前是最黑暗

There is a price for everything - trust is priceless & betrayals know no boundaries

Whatever happens, if you don't cut loss, it gets more painful than hopeful

From zero to zero, it's still zero - never cry over spilled milk

From the ashes, comes the phoenix; NY World Trade Centre was demolished in 9/11 in a terrorists attack but after 20 years and $4bil, it's a new landmark

Nobody can abuse you, your trust & sell your Soul if you do not allow

Giving up on people/others is an Art - if you are willing to cut the strings to your kite, both will be free

“When things go wrong, don't go with them.”  - Elvis Presley

It was NY2022. It's gonna be ChineseNY in two days time. Drop everything behind that hurts & begin with a hopeful Year of the Tiger [Tigers may be ferocious but they can be tamed and domesticated] - be in charge of your Life & write your own destiny

Maybe, it is time to give up the headless chase

When your heart grows cold, it's time to move on - enjoy the relief

Make the difference...now

Opportunity Comes Often

deja vou or coincidence ...

How many coincidences make a lucky strike? Infinite... nobody knows

In coincidence, most outcomes are positive

We work towards our goals; be readily trained & qualified

You need to have a marketable skill - the desired skill to solve the mentioned problem

Be readily 'useful' to everyone; that's your value-add

Smile is a global language

Nobody will be suspicious of a natural smile

However difficult life is, there will always be a lucky break

Time is the essence and patience is the silver lining

Laughters lighten the heart & frees the Soul

When your encounter "all hell breaks loose", retreat into your cocoon, stay calm with a calculated mind, wait for clarity, then respond when the situation favors

Come what may, whatever fits : SMILE

Covid has been around for 2 years & no amount of worry can rid this menace, save for stay healthy, having Faith & avoiding unknown crowds 

Unlike some political jokers, Covid does not follow script and 'infect to potentially kill'

My guess is the world is walking on a tightrope of disputes, mad yet fiery military adventurism, food shortages, jobs scarcity, inflation and loss of Faiths in both, Man & God

In layman's term, Thucydides trap can be read as "that the reigning power refused to, or is in self-denial, to admit its decaying abilities to continue to lead" - war is not imminent but cause by Man's vanity 

Do whatever you want & deem fit but be rule by conscience

History repeats itself because it's written by the Victors; it was never a coincidence

After the ravages, come reconstruction & recovery

Life is a cycle (cyclical), not a coincidence

With knowledge, grit and wisdom, every challenges can be overcome

The uncertain future is fraught with opportunities

Opportunity knocks often - only if you are open to it

Be the lighthouse to ALL

Destiny Is Written By You

when one ends, another begins...while most continue

Many impossibles were achieved at extremes of demand

Walt Disney, a shy & insecure man, was dismissed as a non-artist & non-achiever

Picasso lacked discipline and dislike formal instructions

Benito Mussolini was originally a socialist politician, turned fascist & dictator, and expanded Italy's influences into Albania, Libya, Ethiopia, Somalia & others

Sun Yat-Sen lived through the turbulent period & is unique among 20th-century Chinese leaders for being widely revered in both mainland China and Taiwan

Hideki Tojo came from a relatively low-ranking samurai family & rose to the rank of General in the Imperial Army, then Prime Minister during WW2; he was convicted as a war criminal after WW2

Lee Kuan Yew took the road less traveled and led Singapore, after independence from Malaya, to shine & prosper with foresight and commitment to the people, though not necessarily accommodating at times. 

Give & take, Care & share and by allowing the free flow of information, initiatives will enhance and manifest; nobody has a monopoly of ideas - for the People, with the People, by the People

You cannot inhibit initiatives and expect freshness of ideas to blossom

Healthy competition challenges known boundaries and push for new frontiers - metaverse & NFT (non-fungiable tokens), cryptos included

DotCom collapsed in 2000s & SARs miraculously disappeared by 2004

Will cryptos collapsed during COVID & reappears in a more stable, acceptable and globally recognised methods of settlement post-Covid? The chances are highly likely not unlike the metamorphosis of a butterfly

Vax & re-vax, booster shots & additional shots - this simply shows that the vaccine is ineffective, save for lowering the impact of those hit by Covid

Henceforth, this should be optional instead of mandatory - who's profiting from this? Any, why so? It seems to be kind of karma-in-motion; the days of testing on animals are over. It's humans now

Nothing is infinite but everything evolve

All decisions are right at the point of making

Regret is the result of emotional response - "I gave in", "I thought it was the best", "I thought it will never fail", "He's very convincing"...

Do not make any promises when you are happ(iest)y nor react when you are absolutely down; both seem undeliverable

Most bitter decisions result in (more) positive outcome; its like an antidote

You bite the bullet and the pains dissolved ultimately

As the pains are washed away by time & wisdom, a new horizon materializes

We are all unique & here to perform certain tasks 做好本分 前途无量

It is okay to fail & that's not the end of the road

Every ending has a new beginning but do not apply the same solutions to your harbored ambition

For avoidance of doubts, you may recycle your CNYear-Resolution ; either you change your goals or your solutions to succeed

Nature has a way of rearranging destiny & restart mankind

Some day soon, your LUCK will arrive

360 Days Of Possibilities - Beginning Now

the show must go on...

As the new year crawled in, the show continues

The only thing that's new is the calendar, Year 2022

You continue with your 酸甜苦辣 daily chores, unchanged melodrama, obstinance, convictions, beliefs, whatever fits

The same solutions to the same problem yields the same results

Success is measured differently; dominance, fame, power, rewards, position, breakthroughs, makeups, recuperates, restoration ...or simply found peace amidst disquietness

During the Great Depression, Colonel Saunders started selling his fried chickens with his social security money ($105) at age 62years old & sold a part of his business for $2mil at 73yo but continued to earn from franchising

Nobody, or few would know, he started "Claudia Saunder, The Colonel's Lady", a non-fast food KFC, at age 84yo 

Former US President Barack Obama became the first black person-president of the US in 2008. Before 1965, it was almost unthinkable that the blacks (afro-americans) can vote

Beliefs, righteousness, integrity, compassion, enthusiasm, honesty & grit, bathe with lucks are fundamental building blocs for success 天时地利人和

You need money, if not, guts to succeed

Nature versus Nurture; even if you are destined to succeed (Nature), your success will be marginal if you don't put in your efforts (Nurture)

Everyone eats to live & not live to eat but will endeavor higher aspirations as basic needs are met

Chase your dreams

Between your first breathe and your last, conquer your world & push for newer frontiers

When you think you CAN, half the battle is won

You can bicker, blame the world, complain incessantly...but you will remain stuck in the rut

Use your energy to change the course of your life positively instead; you change & the world changes with you

Whether you like it or not, the world continues evolving

You have 360days in 2022...maybe! Make every day counts

Anyone who refuses to admit mistakes, need not change & will not change

A persistent liar is any incurable hypocrite & gaslighting is one of his favorite tools

Between cash and promises, take cash, however filthy - a banker once said "I like the stench of dirty monies"

You need not bother with what others think nor say of you

Your presence is their present but your absence will not be felt; try borrowing money (or ask for favors) from those around you and see how many stay

Keep going, keep dreaming but be awakened soon enough & work on your dreams

Most goals come true

Resolutions can be recycled & goals may change

Today is current and tomorrow is never promised 活在当下

曾经拥有 是幸福 天长地久 是梦想 Life is finite and all shalt pass; parting is not a choice

Summarily, the world is looking for a safer mode of exchange as the confidence in currency(ies) is waning. The leading capital market is base on hype and hope and the valuation is almost 'imaginary', not unlike the metaverse

How will/can the economies grow or "keep growing" if there are shortages in food and commodities, breakdown in logistics & delivery, disappearing employments and sabre rattling? It almost defy applied economics

I am not going to speculate on what may happen tomorrow but will live my best today; the show must go on

Free Yourself From Bondages

time is always constant...

365 days & +1day on leap year... 60seconds, 60 minutes, 24 hours, 52 weeks

When 31,536,000 seconds passed & 2022 arrives

Time slowed down to a trickle as C19 struck; the whole ecosystem was muddled, restructured & calibrated to reflect a new normal

9/11 brought in security concerns and C19 pushed health issues into the forefront

COVID allowed Earth breathing spaces to clean up the air, oceans, mountains & surroundings

However, C19 also witnessed the resurgence of human greed, thirst for power, control & domination

While Nature assists nature to clean & clear, Nature also allow Humans to self-destruct due to their over indulgence & selfishness  - no nations will be left untouched in a nuke-war

Within borders, countrymen destroy one another in their zeal for domination & control - only those with compassion, care & share will be spared 施舍 忏悔

Revolutions are the results of suppression & oppression; the commoners endeavor a peaceful environment to live, let live & to pass time

Nobody wants anarchy 

Laws are necessary to ensure orders but excessive controls and micromanagement kill trust & disable initiatives; there is no monopoly of ideas & many successful entrepreneurship are the fruits of gumption & gutfeel

Marslow theory clearly showed that when Man has achieved most, he will seek self-actualisation which unfortunately may also mean that Man can self-crowned himself & make unnecessary demands from his flocks

There is no "ABSOLUTE" but two or more sides to possibilities

Do not give false hopes & promises as it could be a "live or death" matter to some

Do not be blindly pliant and obedient - you deserve the consequences of your decision

No persons/leaders, however wealthy, powerful, famous or supposedly well-like, can survive in a sea of poors 

Karma has a way of taking away or gives you whatever you desired most

Everything is temporary & vanity does not immortalize your eccentricities

Physical & emotional dependence are destructive; when a person is void of emotions, he has lesser bondages

Turn away vanity, deny others any chances to judge you, beware of false prophets & friends. How? Be fearless & indifferent to their provocations and temptations

Walk free...free your Soul

May the new year offer you the chance to crystalize your ideals - no holds bar

Resolutions Again: Christmas, New Year & Chinese New Year

Faiths & prayers...

When the mind is confident & unshaken, nothing hurts the body

No pains, no diseases, no agonies ...can affect the gritty mind & body

COVID has proven that nothing is impossible, or conversely, anything & everything is possible

The new normal will speed up & clear the usual ways that things were done

Fortunate are those who had made use of the lull period to upskill, upgrade, improvise and adapt to new ways of resolving issues & situations 

eSolutions will rule

Costs of living is rising unnoticeably but markedly

Inflation, stagflation, recession, depression - any of this will make lives & livelihoods much tougher

Underemployment, unemployment, stagnant incomes and diminishing real disposable incomes are contributors toward stressful living, frustrations, anxieties & suicides

The way out of uncertainties is "minimalist living" ; eat enough, have enough rest, keep out of others problems & instigation, manage your resources and stay healthy   

Live well & neutral while others bicker about their living

A happy family, bathe with warmth and belonging, is the best accorded shelter

Tough times don't last, tough people do - outlive your challenges - not all challenges need to be addressed

Like fire, the fury will burn out if left alone

The best defense is attack; we must resist when fakeness & baseless accusations become character assassination 底线

Nobody owes you a living & so it is (true) that nobody has a right to break your Soul

Never takes kindness as weakness - if there is a need to fight, fight to win & eliminate

Faiths & prayers reinforce the mind

A sturdy Mind is a solution enabler

Stop worrying and start living 活在当下

Forgive but don't forget - a lesson well taught is (must be) well learnt

It's barely 7 days before the day becomes new & so are the month & year

Have your crystalized your bucket of wishes or it's time to dust & reuse your resolutions? Do whatever fits & keep going

Some day soon, your dreams will come true; perhaps an abridged version

One day to Christmas, seven days to New Year & thirty eight days to Chinese New Year

This will be my last piece to close 2021: GOD Bless

Time Wasted Worrying

dying comes naturally...

Nobody knows when their time is up & it arrives mostly unannounced and at an instant

We are all destined to die; it's only when - the journey is cast but the exit methods differs

Empires come and go; friends disappear & spouses part - every thing is finite

The crave for fame, money, power ...is control; the need to control others for domination

Respect wasn't won but 'bought' & never lasts ...so is loyalty

Money talks, bullshit walks

Whichever religion you subscribe to, it's about love, compassion, forgiveness & care - nobody has seen GOD

天 - whatever you wish and pray for, GOD never voice out but somehow your prayers maybe answered (or ignored)

地 - whatever you wish & pray for, you need to work on it, henceforth "you reap what you sow" - the land has abundance & rewards those who works. The land never speaks

人 - human is the bridge between heaven & land & the only one that can talk. Either you gain abundantly or you poison your own lifeline

Karma is your personal computer; whatever you key in, come out - a direct correlation to your efforts

GOD will not destroy Earth but Earthlings ill-intents self destruct - be kind to one another or you'll be MAD (Mutual Assured Destruction)

The christians, muslims, jews & a few others believe you go to heaven after death whereas the buddhists  &, maybe hindus, believe you need to do good, have compassion, practice redemption & are allowed the cycles to reincarnate until you cleanse up or achieve enlightenment

Nobody aspire to go to Hell but if Heaven is so good, why aren't those who want to go there, go now? If you are living in Hell on Earth, why not make your Earthly stays Heavenly...enjoy the heavenly life you have now活在当下

Make every moment of living, memorably heavenly

Look around you: the political quarrels, the bullying of weaker nations, the milking of the commoners, the oppression of the weak, the displacement of the citizens, the suppression of truths, the threats of deprivation of freedom, the list goes on...isn't these living in Hell? Karma dish out the same menu when your time is up

Death is never fearsome

When you die, you move onto another realm (if there is one)

Make sure you enjoy every moments of life, for tomorrow may not come

Covid & many problems exist whether you like it or not; live well while others live worst is an angel's dream

Worries never solve problems but erode good health

Lock your mind out of "noises, irritants, distractions and overthinking" & you Soul will find peace

With peace, you will live heavenly on Earth

 2021 will be over soon; so do not waste 2022 onwards