In Memoriam : 24th June, 2026

my dream, stoic supporter has left ... 

The indisputable Leader, Caregiver & Living Angel is the Mother, in spirit & in every imaginable way she protects her young at all costs including sacrificing her life

She never let 'poorness' & poverty hinder her determination to give the best to her children

For nine months, she gives from within [her] & every childbirth is not without risks 

I used to have a younger brother who had cerebral palsy and he lived past 10yo and my mother had walked half the globe looking for a cure for him; western medicine, TCMs, Gods & whatnots, deities and bomohs... anyone who can offer a cure or to cure him ~ hopes vs miracles. The best arrived when he left & relieved the family from further sufferings, especially my mother - the caregiver

Suffers? Yes, we all suffered together but my mother never, never shed her responsibilities nor show weaknesses but keep everyone well, together & alive, healthy and taken cared of ~ money was short but we lived by and weather the challenges. We were never left hungry and the family remains happy 

In our early days, she worked as a washerwoman, a general worker at ZhiChar stalls, as a hawker & participated in tontines; saving for a rainy day & saved every cent - the ever-thrifty woman who kept the family afloat & running

We sold breads door-to-door in the four blocks of HDB flats daily & my mum allowed credit as some could not pay until their payday. Guess what, she empathized with the poor, but several moved away without paying. Bad debts are common, say 10% ~ her only word was 'never mind, they are going through difficult times too'

She was the sole breadwinner, the stalwart & bedrock of the family

My mum is fiercely independent & a hard(est)working-type; come rain or sunshine, she brightens up

Complaints? NIL - there is simply 'no time' to take a breather to survive, let alone complaint

手停口停Hands stopped, mouth stopped

The photos on the left are taken recently; everyone in the family plays a part to cheer her up

Amongst the many of us, she has her favorite child & grandchild. Me? I'm unranked but a good punching bag. My niece rated me as the "Safety Net & the family's BedRock"

I have lost my SuperMother & only memories remain  世上（界）只有妈妈好

It was only two months ago [10th May, Sunday] on Mother's Day, while having breakfast with her at the hawker center, that I heard my mum humming this song; it's all memories now

I take comfort that I had provided for her, cheer her up whenever possible, come rain or sunshine, taken punches & fleeting reprimands without an iota of angry response; I used humor & simply laughs it off & never allow discord to brew tensions

好好说话 保持沉默 好说好说 什么都可说

良言一句三冬暖  恶话伤人六月寒 

My religious belief allows me to reject criticism, curses, 'misfortunes', unfriendliness and all things negative and embrace positivism & motivational vibes  

I (try to) no longer get angry, frustrated, 'hates', vigorously 'fight-back' and meet 'head-on' over unreasonable issues 沉默 I allow the bodhisattva in me to manifest

My SuperMother is now free in the next realm ~ the Godly Realm ~ & her memories live forever

[My mother left us at age 90yo suddenly ~ I can still vividly imagine her at her home & recall that I'd visit her as often as my time allows to chitchat, have meals & listen to her advice, stories & recollections]

It's all memories now